walking through the mall and reminding these self-inflated lil white girls what Black beauty is
it is so funny to watch them walk around thinking so incredibly highly of themselves for no reason, then take one glance and in that moment I see every hope of confidence they have spent years building up according to Teen Vogue standards shatter
then they turn back and try to act as if nothing happened
but they’re clearly not the same after
it’s like something died inside
“if i did it, you can do it to.” i see this on weight loss ads and ads for college and education the most. they fucking piss me off. i think that’s some real white nonsense. they want to be so individualized and make it all about me, me, me but when it comes to differences, they are so afraid they say things like, if i did it, you can do it to. the idea that everyone can do what everyone else can do is absurd. there are many things people can do that i cannot do and many things i can do that other people cannot do.
this is part of my problem with a society with an individualized attitude and outlook, but it is soooo basic and rudimentary. we have things like bootstraps, just pull yourself up and lift yourself out of any situation and if you don’t you must be a failure. and then ideas like, if i can do it, you can do it to. how do we have these complete different ideas in the same society and use them against people whenever convenient (ex. you are poor? you need to just pull yourself up, if you can’t you must be doing something wrong. see that person, they did it, if they can do it, you can too. but… this completely ignores the fact that we are in fact individuals and that we have different situations, abilities and social positions in society). it works to sell shit. sell, sell, sell. really that’s all. see this woman lost weight, be like her, you will have the same results, cause she could do it.
but it really doesn’t work like that. and i almost feel my experiences and others are degraded when people say it. like, not everyone would have been able to make it through school and manage to keep my gpa during my circumstances and made it to grad school. but you know, i wouldn’t have been able to finish if i was in some circumstances like others i knew, such as a friend who lost her child’s father in a car accident and raised him while caring for her mother, especially if still in my own situation. our situations are different. our places in society are different. i highly doubt a white straight cismale could really get half the places they get if in my position as a mixed Black genderqueer queer person. the weight of that position and their mentality as a white male wouldn’t co-exist, they would die under the weight. and so i feel like when we say shit like that, we just never want to acknowledge the strength in differences. the beauty in the abilities of others and the things we can learn from them by complementing our abilities with others abilities. this isn’t all coherent, it’s really a fucking rant and some thoughts that came with it.